Memorial Day

it is getting late on Memorial Day in the U.S. I have had a post in mind for a couple of days but must confess I did not get it done. 

There have been many posts about remembering the military people who have died in service. I agree that they have paid a great price and am very grateful for the freedom we have here.

What I have only seen once in all the posts about Memorial Day is any remembrance of non-military people who have died. 

The real reason I did not get this post done before is that I wanted to get out and scan old family pictures of visiting graves and “decorating” them on Memorial Day…sometimes called Decoration Day. From childhood I remember this as an annual trip to cemeteries in Kansas City, MO and Herington, Kansas. This was important to my grand-mother and we did not miss it. I am not sure how I felt then. I knew there were babies and moms and old folks missing from the family. I knew this made my parents and grand-parents sad. 

Today, as an adult, I miss many who have passed…way too many. I can’t even imagine the loss of a child, as my parents and grand-parents endured. As many things do, it seems the way people are memorialized has changed. Some folks have opted to leave behind no place to visit. For me, it has proven true that I don’t need a place to go and set wreaths or flowers, though that would be good. And I enjoy the peacefulness of cemeteries. I can remember and talk to those that have passed before me from anywhere…and I do. I have asked my children how they feel about it…what they might want when I am gone, but they have not wanted to discuss it.

So, this rambling…what am I getting at? Mostly that I think Memorial Day is for remembering all who,have died. Whether in service, military or otherwise, in love or in friendship, may we all have reasons to remember with respect, gratitude, honor, pride and joy those who are gone now. And may we think of them much more often than on a certain date the calendar says we should!

Thank you to,those who have served this country and given their lives. Thank you to those who have loved, laughed, played, sang, danced, cried, listened and otherwise shared life with me. Each and every one of you is missed and remembered on this Memorial Day!

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7 thoughts on “Memorial Day

  1. We don’t have Memorial Day here in the UK, the closest we have is Remembrance Sunday in November. It is surprising that I had always seen it as remembering those who had lost their lives in the two world wars, but sadly, in recent years (the last decade or so) there are many men who have been injured and killed during conflicts all over the world. It has made this day instead of being a remote history of generations past, a sombre realisation that we still don’t have peace and good men and women die for their country.

    I agree that it would be a good time to reflect on all those who have passed. I walk my dog every day through the local churchyard and there are so many beautifully kept graves. I think people get a lot of comfort from simply being close to the loved one they lost.

  2. Beautifully written. It is a good thing to talk with our kids about our final days, get our wills, living wills and dying care wishes known. But more importantly get them written and legal. I was a nurse for over 35 years and saw many elderly people be brought back only briefly before they passed because the children weren’t ready for them to die. It is a loving thing to surrender your elderly, ill or not, to the loving hands of God. It is usually a peaceful passing when the patient is elderly and frail. I agree I don’t need a place to talk to my deceased parents or husband.

  3. Thank you for such a beautiful heartfelt and moving post. I agree we can, and should, remember people anywhere and everywhere.

  4. I agree this day belongs to all those who have passed. Although the loved ones we’ve lost are never far from our thoughts, It is important for us to put them front and center on at least this one day. You’ve spoken eloquently for them all!

    We won’t be here to speak for them forever, but we can ensure they’re not forgotten by committing our memories of them to the written word. We can leave a record of who they were, what they accomplished and how much they were loved. I know very well how cathartic such expression can be and, when it’s done, there is a certain peace.

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